Do the caveman thing especially if you have a man cave. You grab her by the hair and say, '' me man , you woman, man takes what he wants'' and drag her to your preverbal cave and like that. Just kidding, but I can't stop thinking about it and can't seem to not just leave well enough alone and shut up. I'm sorry it's nothing personal.

 

I sent the OP over to the Office of Cool Story, Bro for review, and Ms. Dubious, the office manager was not happy. I quote, "Did you just send me a post with an asshole av? What the fuck is wrong with you?"

After she calmed down, her basic feeling about the entire manner is that any man with that av is not all that worried about fucking his wife.

 

Get a clap switch for the lights and don't tell her.

 

Valid point. Admittedly, I enjoy myself without my wife. Still doesn't make sex with my wife any less desirable.

 

I'm not the dominate type but I've definitely thought about it!

 

I think it’s bad situation. Surely she had NO enjoyment sex in the past, not with you neither before, had no one real orgasm yet. And she doesn’t understand that fuck is very important part of family life and strength, that it’s very important for you – her husband, that it’s part of your happiness in marriage which you wishes but didn’t get. And she even don’t want to think that every her reject to fuck or to let you to play well in fuck makes you to anguish and suffer. You had to be much more insistent at the beginning of your family life, now it’s much more difficult to turn her mind – but some chances are still there.

First, explain her everything as is. Find good words to make her to understand YOUR unsatisfactory in your couple life. Say her directly that even if she has no great desire to fuck like most wives do it she is still obliged to do her best to bring fuck satisfactory to you, it’s her duty to cancel your suffers, and this duty doesn’t require any extraordinary, dirty, debauchery etc., it’s NORMAL!.. Ask her to let you to do more in actual fuck, as well as to have sex much more often. Warn her that in another case you’ll be forced to find those opportunities out of home, and may be with no good forecast for your family life. Of course, tell her the best about new scope of fuck feelings which about she even doesn’t know at the moment and even can’t imagine how fine, pleasant, amazing it is – to get orgasm. Offer her to concentrate her mind and to try it WELL and continuously. Look to reaction and decide what to do after.

At the same time, day by day you have to extend your efforts to “turn” her, to activate her fuck things, to make her start to feel HER specific female fuck feelings. Become more proactive and insistent in sex. More often slap her ass. Time by time come from behind and embrace her, taking tits to your palms and caressing those through clothes, and kissing her neck behind ears, etc. In a morning wake up her teasing her nipples, fingering her pussy and rubbing her clit. Once tonight remove her home clothes out of bedroom, and try to strip her naked while she is asleep – when she’ll try to stand up strictly catch and hold her and play with her body well, making her to feel that you see her naked body and like it too much. Having her yes for fuck, turn her to side, embrace hard from behind and do anything you want by your smart hands with no correspondence to her cry – just close her mouth by your palm if necessary. Mandatory finger her clit well before actual coitus till you feel she RESPONDS. She likes missionary – Ok, do her few times well so. But one day turn her to doggy (even enforcing!) and fuck from behind as hard and long as you can! By any manner lead her to main target – orgasm. Reaching that (and her understanding that it’s worth it), concentrate your efforts to do more number of fuck practices pleasant for her. At one day give her your cock and ask to suck it – just to try, say how you want it and how fine and pleasant it could be for her – to feel it alive and hardening more and more under HER tongue exercises. Etc. etc.

So – insistence and continuous. No other way if you want to keep her as your lovely wife. If no – everything much more easy: divorce.

Good luck.

 

Wow, yet another wife, not giving out,......there are so many answers you can listen to here, but NO amount of kissing her neck, or sweet talk, or compliments will 'change' her at all.
Your quote here about washing, cooking and cleaning etc, is such a giveaway,......you could do ALL these things for years and years, and you do know already in your heart, that she WILL NOT CHANGE. She is 'happy' that you do and have done these things for her, but nothing changes, and it never will. She is constantly testing you, and the fact that you do all these things for her makes her laugh at you inside, and secretly despise you even more.
YOU are doing ALL these things for her, and yet she will still not change, and please ask yourself "why would she change!?" You're already doing all these nice things for her, without her having to change her ways,......the only time she will become vaguely interested in communicating properly with you, is when you REFUSE to do absolutely anything for her, by acting like a cuck towards her, she has you wrapped around her little finger, and your balls in her handbag. Why would she have sex with you, when you ALREADY do all these things for her???
She doesn't want or need to have sex with you, she is playing you for a fool, as many wives do, using men's rarely satiated urges, to make them jump through hoops for them. It took me a loooong time to work it out,......ignore her and get on with your day initially, she'll soon want sex with you, when the furniture needs replacing, or the washing machine needs fixing. Don't play this game with her, and get the hell out of that toxic environment forever, of course she'll screw you on the divorce settlement/alimony/child support etc, but it will be a smaller price now, than later on when your mental health becomes fragile. This is something women and wives will NEVER understand, to them, it's all a little game, because, don't forget a woman/wife can get the sex she really wants ANYWHERE, ANYTIME. There are always thousands of THIRSTY men around, (most of them MARRIED!!) Don't believe that she wouldn't do that or hasn't done that either, her little game of PRETENDING to be crap at sex/relationships/marriage etc, is her mask,......"the more you know, the less you show", as the saying goes.

She does NOT want to have sex with you, whatever poor reason she gives you for lack of desire towards you, it is all lies and deceit, the fact is she doesn't find you attractive in that way anymore.

HOWEVER, she does 'want' you, but ONLY for her to become pregnant again, and your continued financial support, yet she will not support you and your needs and desires,......don't you get it my friend!?
Don't even consider the 'counselling', marriage guidance rubbish option either, an absolute waste of money,......the counselor will usually be a woman, who understands NOTHING about being a man/husband, and even if the counselor is a man, he'll still be portraying YOU, to be the root of your problems,......counselling is an INDUSTRY to extract money from desperate husbands and thirsty men, don't make your heartache worse my friend.

 

Did you know her before you were married. If you had an idea that she didn't like sex, why would you marry her?

 

Be fruitful and multiply...often,... just wear an condom and tell her its practice

 

TWO year's and no sexual contact, you must really LOVE this woman or perhaps your afraid of being on your own? I'm sorry, don't want to sound cold and rude but life is way to fucking short to be with someone who does not share your thoughts when it comes to being intimate, you may want to consider alternative solutions while your still young enough to execute and enjoy them.

 

Very differing opinions from everyone. It's what I asked for so thank you. And I appreciate the hard honest truth, most of which I already know deep down but just am not willing to give up on the relationship just yet.

A lot of you asked why would I ever marry this woman in the first place. I'll answer that. She is a godsend to our children and I love her for it. All in all, she is a great all around person who volunteers much of her time and money, cares about others and wants to help every one, and she is a pre-school teacher that loves all of her students as her own. This is, by far, the main reason I married her. I love her for the person she is.... Well to everyone else at least. I seem to get the shit end of the deal though. Everyone else sees her at her best, I only see her at her worst.

I'm certain I'm not ready for divorce yet nor will I ever be honestly. I've been through one nasty divorce already and I promised myself I wouldn't go through another one. But to be honest, at this point the only thing stopping me is all the money I stand to lose and the kids. They love this woman and I couldnt stomach tearing them apart from her. At this point, if we end up divorced it would be because she initiated it.

Again, thank you to all of you that have commented and listened to me talk myself through my own thoughts. Peace and love to all of you.

 

Sounds like you have come to a point many married people find themselves in. The person you're with isn't making you happy, they aren't treating you right. One the other hand you don't want to break up the family, so u put up with the shit, but how long can you last before the unhappiness starts to erode the happy foundation that you're clinging to? I was just talking about hard choices in another thread today. From experience, try not to let unhappiness turn to resentment once that happens you're crippled impala gazing into the mouth of a lion. Best of luck to you.

 

If you’re still trying, have you tried talking to her about sex? Ask her what it’s like for her.

 

I know this is going to sound harsh. But when you have given all you can give and have nothing to refill the well. Time to let it go. Sometimes you just have to walk away for you. Really, I know how painful that idea is. But, unless your just willing to be "Friends without bennefits" a short pain now will save years of heartache later on. Good luck man. Sorry you have to go down the road. No matter what you chose she won't change and it's going to hurt. You just have to decide, will it be a short term pain, or long term.

 

Men and women are intended to enjoy each other’s bodies. And equally. Anything short of that is unhealthy and maybe even pathological. My opinion but my very strong opinion.