Hello good forum members! It’s come to my attention that this forum has become very serious and not as lighthearted and fun as it was in the past. People have become very sensitive, we used to poke fun at each other. What happened to “lighten up Francis”?


So in the interest of good fun, how seriously do you take yourself on a scale of one to ten?

I’m saying I’m at negative 10 at this point in my life. I constantly laugh at myself and just expect things to go sideways.

 

See, I would rate myself but its all subjective

 

Sarcasm is hardly ever recognized anymore. As for his seriously I take myself? I’m right there with you, an -10 is close.

 

10.... You only live once. Make it worth the price you pay.

 

I don't take myself seriously at all. How I take someone else is a whole different story. It all depends on what their history is with whoever they're making fun of. If they're friends and commonly rib each other, then it's all in fun. If they are saying hurtful things to someone I like, I'll probably react negatively. I have done it in the past, and I'll probably do it again. Because I tend to be an emotional person and will defend someone I feel is vulnerable like a mother tiger sometimes. Am I always right? Nope. I'm flawed. Imagine that!

It's fine to poke fun at ourselves, but when you start to poke fun at someone else, it can easily be mis-read, and with humor, that's always the risk you take. Have I ever posted something I thought was funny, and it went over like a lead balloon? Yep. It happens to everybody sometime because we're able to post pretty much whatever we want here, but along with that, others can post what they want in response.

As far as your feeling that it's not as fun here as it used to be, I can only judge how it's been since I started. When I stared here, I was afraid to post in GD because there was a group of grumpy dudes that would rip your head off if you posted in the wrong area. Most of those guys are gone now, and I think it's way more fun than it was before.

And most of the lighten up Francis brigade is still beating each other up in the Politics section.

 

I don't take myself seriously at all. But like others I am not perfect. I poke fun at myself all the time. I don't care what anyone really has to say about me. Now same time I do appreciate the positive feedback but all the negative I just laugh at them and brush it off and move on.

I learned that at a early age. In my middle school years. Words don't mean shit. Physical pick on don't mean shit. But same time if you want to verbally attack people weaker then you I will defend that person. Either I know them or not. I'd rather the person everyone makes fun of cause I'm the class clown.

I'm the random guy in my neighborhood.
Blasting 90s music singing and dancing in my yard with no dance skills at all just to make my neighbors day.

 

10.

But I don't expect others to take me that seriously.

 

I will say I am missing the hell out of some folk that made it fun, and too often that’s because of assholes and their assholery. When the good folk walk away, it changes the dynamic, and not for the better. That might be what whoever told you that^ is feeling, but every once in a while an ancient thread will get bumped and I’ll see a post from An Elder basically complaining this place isn’t any fun any more, so how accurate can this statement be?

As for me? I’m kind of a big deal.

In all seriousness (swidt?) as far as this place goes, I don’t take myself terribly seriously. Maybe a 3? Maybe? I’ve got some solid experience/knowledge to share about BDSM that I’ll contribute every once in a while, and I take safety and consent pretty seriously.

I’ve made some friends, we goof off with each other in the threads, it’s mostly fun and snark. I spend as much time with them off-board as I do on, though, so it’s whatever. Mostly it’s jokes and reaction GIFs and silly snapchat filters interspersed with pix of some hot dude. They’re solid good folk.

Recently I went off into the swamp of politics, thankfully didn’t get stuck, gave my head a shake and got back on the main road, it’s all good. Sometimes what you see is just so twisted you gotta slow down and take a look, you know?

But I’ll answer what I think you’re really driving at.

I think there are some folks who obsess about this joint. I think they invest a lot of time, energy, and resources in their presence and profile here, and for them it’s not lighthearted fun, it’s tied to their self-perception. They watch like a hawk, and spend their time posting in response mode.

Here’s what I don’t do. I don’t:

• Write to people to talk about others or ‘warn’ them or invite them to do stuff that will upset someone else, make them jealous, etc
• Attempt to manipulate opinion or accuse someone of doing something they didn’t do
• Place myself in a position of competition or measure my ‘success’ based on follows or likes or anything of that sort - you like my stuff? I think you have exceptional taste and are a fine human being
• Join in on group stuff - I did once to my huge regret, never again
• Make my profile about someone else - attack people with passive-aggressive shit or other nonsense on the info tab or in my signature
• Spend my time convinced that someone is posting “about me”
• Embark on an attack campaign, commenting on their posts or their profiles with contentious shit

In my view, if you’re pulling that nonsense, you’re taking this - and yourself - way too seriously. Like, come on. Your view of entertainment is skewed. You’re an ass. Who wants to be so consistently negative? Yikes. That cannot be fun. Is that fun? I don’t believe that’s fun.

There are some folk here I find … odious. The reasons are mine; their thoughts or views or opinions offend me morally or I think they’re just huge fuckin’ dicks because they’re up to their eyeballs in the behaviour above. I often place those people on ignore. Ignore = they cease to exist. The relief is immediate and I definitely recommend it.

I guess my answer is I don’t take myself seriously here, nor do I take anyone else very seriously, either. If I see assholery I might call it out, but what are the chances they’re going to change their asshole ways? Slim to nil. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

So. I’m still having lots of fun with the people who like to have a good time.

 

I treat everyone with kindness and respect if they deserve it. Most people do. So here, that makes me a solid 5 I think. I am serious enough to care about others, but not so serious that my feelings get hurt anymore. I can take it as good as I give it.

That’s what she said.

 

So in the interest of good fun, how seriously do you take yourself on a scale of one to ten?

Thank God this is in the interest of good fun I’ll sit this one out and just observe the fun

 

Never try to take myself serious at all.

Anytime I make mistake then I'll call me my own self out on it.

Respect and kindness are my main priorities in life. Treat people how you would like to be treated!

Scale would be in the middle

 

I don't take much of anything seriously, probably to a fault. So I certainly don't take myself seriously.

 

10. I go to several groups at the VA with guys that were hippies, farm boys, street hustlers, you name it when we were all 18 or a little older... before we got drafted, I don't think a single one of us ever thought we'd see what we'd saw in such a short period of time. I listen and hear the husks of young men, just barely out of being kids and realize all the broken dreams and families that were potentially in the future or didn't happen at all. Damn straight, I'm serious. But I, and most of these guys still have an edgy sense of humor we share, and we've earned a true concern for suffering fools that 'wish they could be like us' but can't. Just sayin'. Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke.

 

I only tend to be serious when necessary as there are times for that. For the most part though, I’m a laidback dude who likes to lighten the mood by making people laugh and help them forget about their everyday BS that life throws at ‘em. Hard to rate it from 1-10, I guess it just depends on the situation.

 

I hate it when people make fun of or ridicule others!! I can poke fun at myself, but won't do it to other people. Since the advent of the internet, name calling, which is childish in itself, and other acts of disrespect has become so prevalent. It is too easy to be that way from a distance and anonymously. Disagreeing on anything is normal, just do it in an adult and respectful manner.
Guess that didn't answer the original question so I guess I am an 7 out of 10. I do take myself seriously. What's the point if nothing you say or do matters?

 

I'm at a -7 most days I don't take myself or anyone else that serious but I do enjoy stirring the pot and kicking the bees nest at times. Only time I get serious is if the situation is bringing me into the courtroom then the shit is on the table serious.

 

5 depending on the situation

 

Probably 8